Monday, February 23, 2015

Am I a real person?

It’s the craziest thing. I think I’m becoming a real person. 

My friends and I refer to non-dental students (or really, working people with jobs and responsibilities) as “real people”. For example, here is how it might go in conversation: “My friend is buying a house with her fiancĂ© next year!” “That is so grown-up.” “Well, they’re real people.”


In conversation with a new friend this weekend, I realized me the third year dental student is a real person. My mom always says she grew up into a real person along with me. When she was pregnant, people told her that "a kid was having a kid"- my mom was 27. Having responsibilities that affect others = real, in my book. For instance, if I went to bed too late OR didn’t shower OR let a bad mood overwhelm me, other people would be profoundly affected by my work the next day.

I always looked to May 2016 is when real life will begin… but this sudden realization is both funny and profound to me. I think I'm a real grown up, and it happened without me even realizing it.

When do you feel "real", like your responsibilities and duties are tangibly affecting others?

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  1. I feel like a real person when I'm paying my bills. Haha!
    I'm quite literally taking care of my self, which would have sounded completely outrageous before I moved out my parents place, but look at me now! I own my own car, I have a steady job, I live in a pretty nice apartment. Of course, I became a real person out of necessity, which is why I didn't notice until, well, last year--the changes are incremental, it doesn't happen all at once.

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    1. D- you've been grown up for a long time. ;)

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  2. I love this!! I feel the exact same way - becoming a "real person" is something I keep thinking will happen once I get to the next step - once I graduate college, and then once I make it to dental school, and now I'm like - maybe once I graduate dental school.. When can we be real people and do real people things?? And it's in those times that I have to remind myself that my life is real right now, and probably won't get any real-er than it happens to be.. but the moral of that is to live well, and to live righteously every minute of every day ;)

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    1. Exactly! Life is right now. I can still learn about things that don't apply to me (mostly finance things). And to set priorities and values without the pressure of time.

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  3. Had to comment and state that I call all my non-pharm friends with jobs real people as well!

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    1. :) It's funny to see the "real people" thing stretch across different disciplines!

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  4. I became a real person at 17 when I became a dad. 2 jobs, going to college and applying for dental school will just about stuff your face with realness. Being a upcoming second year, your posts have been enjoyable to read. Keep up the good work!

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